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Now That You're Engaged, Here's How to Start . . .

Written by Cheryl Starkey-King: Logan, OH

Congratulations on your engagement! I am so happy for you. And, depending on how long you are going to be engaged before you get married depends on how long it is going to take you to turn into a monster. Yes, dear. You. Stress is a nasty thing and it does nasty things to you. Were gonna help you find a way around that before your Maid of Honor starts taking up a collection to hire a hit man.

First, make a lot of the decisions BY YOURSELF before you share them with anyone else. The reason for this? You will at least have a notion of what it is you want instead of being steered in 25 different directions and not knowing what to choose. Have you been planning your wedding since you were 9 and already know you wanted yellow and blue as your colors? Then go with it and stand your ground-politely, but firmly. Moving along

Choosing your attendants. If you only have a few friends, this will be fairly easy. If you have a lot of friends, you're bound to tick someone off. The last thing you need right now is the stress of friends who are refusing to speak to you. Your maid or matron of honor is almost always your best friend, a sister and sometimes even, your mother. Depending on the size of your wedding and the size of your circle of friends is where choosing bridesmaids becomes an issue. If you can get away with it, choose sisters, cousins, 2nd cousins twice removed, anyone family and then blame it on your mother. This will take the heat off of you.

Keep a journal. Even if youve never kept one before, start one now. This will be your private place, the one place where you can call everyone every name you want and the one thing no one else can control. A journal will assist you in venting your stress, jotting down ideas and keeping a record of what you have done and what needs done next. Yes, a wedding checklist will accomplish this too, but this is YOUR place. Anyone else involved in the wedding could see the wedding checklist, but the journal is a place where you can quietly try to make sense of it all.

Unless you have an affable groom-to-be who loves to shop as much as you do, leave him at home. There is nothing more stressful than dragging along a man who would sooner take a bath in battery acid than look at china place settings. Men just don't care about these things and there is no sense in you having a hissy fit over it. If its a plate and it has food on it, he’ll eat it. He really doesn't care what the pattern on the plate is. Some men will get involved in shopping for larger items for your new home, but for the most part, they love you enough to trust your judgement. I personally love shopping without my husband. If I let him decide what we shopped for, we would be sitting and sleeping on the floor and eating off of paper plates with plastic forks.

In-laws-to-be. This could take a whole article. My advice: be nice, be polite, smile a lot, shake your head up and down like one of those bobble dolls. Then, go do what you want. Arguing with your future in-laws always sets a bad tone. Don't go there.

D-Day - have as few people helping out with things as possible. The more people doing things, the more confusing it becomes. There should really only be two people with the bride: her Maid/Matron of Honor and her mother or other close relative or friend. Too many people in that room and you can cut the stress levels with a knife. You are going to be nervous and happy all at the same time. Ive seen brides verging on hysteria from the stress levels that can build just before hitting the aisle. The last thing you need is a gaggle of people milling about trying to do every little thing and getting in the way. Lock the door if you have to but you need some peace and calm before you take that walk.

The best way to de-stress? SMILE. You'd be surprised how it will relax you. It may be through gritted teeth, but smile anyway.

 

BRIDAL SHOWER BOOT CAMP
Written by Heather Pieczonka

 
Maids of Honor, at this point, you may be wondering what you got yourself into! Keeping the bride sane, focused, and driving her around to every wedding cake tasting, planning meeting and dress shop may be overwhelming! But the Bridal shower doesn't have to be. The key is to get the other bridesmaids involved in helping you...

A SENSIBLE BUDGET

Here are the 8 major costs for a Bridal Shower...

1. Invitations
2. Favors
3. Pictures and film developing
4. Food and beverages
5. Cake
6. Paper products like plates, cups, napkins and plastic utensils
7. Decorations like streamers, balloons, and fresh flowers
8. Games and prizes

How do you keep the cost under control? By setting a budget and limit on your spending...and sticking to it! When costs start getting out of control, the easiest way to save is to cut back on the food and alcohol...or cut back on the number of guests.

Additionally, get the other bridesmaids to help. Let one of them take care of the invitations, another the favors, while another can take on the games and the game prizes. You'll still get to do the majority of work and shoulder a majority of the expense, but the extra help will let you relax a little.


THE GUEST LIST

Not everyone on the wedding invite list needs to be invited to the shower. In fact, this pre-wedding party is usually limited to the Bride's close friends and family.

Many brides are opting for couples showers where the groom can be included, but don't feel pressured to have a huge list of guests...decide whether you'd like just the girls or an all couples shower, and lets get this party started!


LOCATION, DATE & TIME

You can host at your own home, reserve tables at your favorite restaurant, rent a reception hall, picnic at a park if youll be including children, or if this is a small group of female friends, why not make it a day at the spa with a catered lunch?

It's always a good idea to schedule the bridal Shower at least one month in advance of the wedding. You want the bride relaxed and enjoying her shower, and you won't find a relaxed bride the day before her wedding!

The time of day to host the shower is personal preference, and can be used to determine appropriate food and drink. Morning snacks, afternoon tea, dinner buffet, or anything in-between!


DECORATIONS AND THEMES

A theme can serve as inspiration for decorations and games, even the invitations, favors, and nametags. It makes planning and preparation simpler to have one central theme. Check online for some fun new bridal Shower themes and ideas.


GAMES

About three games for a two-hour shower are just right. Bridal Shower games should be the fun part of planning your Shower, so dont wait until last minute to think about them! Better yet, find one of the bridesmaids who would like to be the game coordinator and work with her to pick out some fun games that go along with your theme.


INVITATIONS

Finalize that guest list because you want to send the invitations at least 2-3 weeks in advance, allowing time for the guests to clear their schedules and find that perfect gift.

Don't forget to include special instructions in the invitations. Many games, and even some themes, require guests to bring special items to the shower and youll want to let them know inside their invitation.


FOOD & DRINK

Finger foods set around the room work great and encourage guests to mingle. You can even do a food theme, like a wine and cheese tasting, an all-salad buffet, or an entire Italian dinner.


GETTING HELP

Last minute tips for shower day...designate a photographer to snap photos and a gift recorder to write down any gifts the bride receives. If you can get someone coordinated before the shower, you will be free to greet guests, refill the punch bowl, and keep everyone mingling...the job of every great hostess!

Don't lose sight of what this day is all about...A CELEBRATION! So remember to relax and have fun with your planning and hosting!

How To Plan The Almost Perfect Wedding

The first thing you have to accept is that no wedding day ever is perfect. No matter how much planning goes into the event, something will either go wrong or not quite as you wanted. Even the Hollywood star's weddings, that are planned by the top Professionals have a glitch happen during the day. That said, let's go over some of the things that need to be done to reach near perfection.

After you, the new Bride-To-Be, accept the engagement ring, it's time to consult with both families, and decide on a tentative time and place for the wedding and reception. You should also start to make up a guest list to have an idea of how large your reception hall should be. Then it's time to talk to your priest, minister or Rabbi to choose a firm date and time for the ceremony. You also want to check on any restrictions that may apply to your individual situation.

Then it's time to start the actual planning. You really should allow at least a year in advance to do this, if at all possible. Many churches/synogogues, caterers, entertainment and halls are booked that far in advance during the peak wedding season which normally runs between Mid-April to mid-October, depending on the part of the country you live. Some Brides will seek out a wedding planner/coordinator to help with suggestions and a lot of the leg work. That is another option. Whether you plan this yourself or hire a coordinator, it would be a good idea to make an outline, on paper, of all the things you want to accomplish and put a tentative date for completion next to each one. Go to an office supply store and get a couple of legal pads and an expandable file folder that has at least 5-6 pockets in it. This way you can label each pocket with the major items and keep them all separate and organized. Label the pockets for things like the Gown Shop, reception hall, caterer, entertainment, accessories and miscellaneous. Use more if you need it. This way when you need to find a contract, notes you made, etc., they are right there. Believe me, this one step will save you so much time and headaches in the future.

Next, start budgeting for the various things you will need, such as the reception location, food, clothes, honeymoon, flowers, music for the ceremony, entertainment, photographer, limousine, wedding cake, etc. See our "Budget How To"  page for more help with this. Also, check out "Who Pays For What" for additional help.

As soon as you have set the wedding date, start reserving your restaurant for the rehearsal dinner, your hall for the reception, your entertainment, etc.  For a group of two hundred people or more, reservations should be made at least a year in advance. For a smaller wedding the hall should be reserved eight months to a year in advance depending on the time of year.

Your computer is an invaluable tool to find a lot of what you are going to want. With a few clicks of your mouse, you can find passages for wedding vows, wording for your invitations, wedding gown, bridesmaids gowns, tuxedos, limousines, flowers, caterer, DJ, and any other needed service, from the comfort of your home or office. When you find a site you like (like ours), save it in your “favorites” list. This will enable you to remember what you saw and take you back to it.

Naturally, some items require an in-person visit, such as the venue for the reception, wedding gown alterations and tuxedo fittings. However a great deal of the time and effort can be saved by finding the styles and colors of gowns, tuxes, the types of invitations and more in the on-line world.

Take your time with all the planning and try to relax by taking a break, even for a day or two, in the process. Involve your families, the Groom-to-be, your bridal party members in helping with certain tasks. Don't try to do it all yourself. It's guaranteed to drive you nuts if you do.

Here are a few insider tips you may not think of to help make the day go more smoothly:

• Practice wearing your wedding shoes before the big day.

Select a pretty handkerchief to tuck into your bouquet for those sentimental moments.

Pack a small emergency bag for those unexpected needs-- a small travel iron, needle and thread,  hair spray, aspirin, nail polish, safety pins, extra panty hose, etc.

If you're having an outdoor wedding, have a colorful supply of umbrellas on hand to help ward off the possibility of inclement weather

Arrange in advance for a relative to transport gifts that are brought to the reception.

If you're planning on having candles, be sure to appoint someone to light them.

Send a romantic note to your fiancé just before the ceremony.

The morning of the wedding, allow time to take a warm bubble BATH. Soak for at least 15 minutes. You'll be amazed at how smoothly the rest of the day will go.

It's important to have a light snack before leaving for the ceremony to keep your energy level up.

And try to get a good nights sleep before the wedding. You'll be glad you did!


If you have a cell phone, make sure the battery is charged AND you have it with you on your wedding day. Give it to the Best man or Maid of Honor before you leave for the church. Make sure you have programmed in the phone numbers of ALL the vendors, the reception hall, parents, etc. If the vendors have cell phones (and most of them do for their own emergencies) ask them for that number so if there is a problem on the day, you can reach the necessary person. Use the cell phone only in an emergency, car breakdown, running late to/from the church, etc. Also, be sure to give YOUR phone number to the caterer and DJ so you can be reached if they need you in an emergency at your reception site.

Be sure you or your Groom-To-Be has extra cash on them for little things that might crop up, such as a quick stop at a drug store on the way, extra last minute fees that might come up, overtime for the entertainment, etc.

With the cost of a wedding today, many brides consider buying wedding insurance. Most policies range in cost from around $150.00 to $400.00 but the peace of mind they offer can be priceless. Wedding policies normally reimburse all non-refundable deposits if you have to cancel or postpone the wedding due to illness, damage to the wedding or reception site, weather catastrophes or if a vendor is a no show. To find out about wedding insurance call WedSafe at 877-723-3933 or visit them on line at WedSafe.com.

Most important, do not let little things grow into big ones. Try to handle each one individually and don't be afraid to ask for advice and help from your family, friends and especially the professionals you hire. They are a great resource for problem solving because they do their work on a day to day basis. You are doing this once so take advantage of their expertise. Which brings up another point. You may have decided exactly what you want and how you want things to go on your big day. Just remember, not everything is doable from the standpoint of how it will be percieved by your guests. Let your professionals make alternate suggestions to acomplish what you want but perhaps in a different order or look. Be somewhat flexible with your ideas. Go for MEMORABLE rather than perfection!


Be sure to look over all the topics here on our site. That's why we are here, to help you. If you have any questions about the things you see here, don't hesitate to contact us by email. We'll get an answer for you if at all possible.

The Things You're Going To Forget To Do

Written by Cheryl Starkey-King: Logan, Ohio

The caterer has the final head count, you have confirmed (TWICE) every vendor on the list and handed out timelines to make absolutely sure when the cake cutting occurs followed by the bouquet toss and so on. Ready to just sit back and enjoy the big party, huh? NOT SO FAST...

Feed Me! Ask your Event Director or your MOH or other friend to bring you a plateful of those fabulous hors doeuvres and keep your champagne or beverage glass filled. Tell your MOH or other trusted pal what you want for dinner (if not sit-down), so you can stay and greet your guests and still try to eat. This also keeps you out of the line of fire of getting something accidentally spilled on your dress. The Best Man or a friend should also take care of the groom in the same manner.

Pay Up! Write final-payment checks for your vendors a few days before, and have a trusted friend or family member pass them out on the big day. Better still, pay everyone in full a few days in advance if you can. If you're planning to tip, put the checks or cash in envelopes ahead of time, so they can be easily distributed.

Get a room! Find out if you can arrange for a separate room for you and your party to leave your bags and change into going away clothes (unless you're in a hotel and already spending the evening there). Make sure attendants remove all of their things from your room before you retire for the night so you're not wading through all of their stuff and yours. A restroom will do in a pinch, but you'll probably want a little more privacy and leaving your things in a public restroom leaves them open to theft..

Lose that baggage! If its not already there, ask a reliable friend to get your luggage into the honeymoon suite, or, if you are leaving after the ceremony, make sure it gets to the getaway car.

Bustle Me!! To keep your reception from being a total drag, make sure your Mom, Maid of Honor or other friend is available to bustle your gown or help you remove a removable train and safely pack it away . A few days before the wedding, show them how to work the complicated hook-and-eye configuration before you hit the dance floor.

Get a room! Find out if you can arrange for a separate room for you and your party to leave your bags and change into going away clothes (unless you're in a hotel and already spending the evening there). Make sure attendants remove all of their things from your room before you retire for the night so you're not wading through all of their stuff and yours. A restroom will do in a pinch, but you'll probably want a little more privacy and leaving your things in a public restroom leaves them open to theft..

Flower Power. If you aren't giving your centerpieces away, arrange for someone to drop them off at a hospital, womens shelter or nursing home.

I'm Starving! Have your caterer pack you and your new hubby a picnic basket of leftovers (buy a picnic basket at any store (Walmart, Kmart, etc..if you are having a winter wedding, buy it in the summer or on sale in the Fall and put it away until the wedding) . You probably won't be able to eat more than a couple of mouthfuls of the meal youve agonized about for months. When all the craziness dies down and its just the two of you, you're going to realize youve hardly eaten a thing and be starving for more than your man.

Leftovers, Anyone? Tell your caterer what to do with the rest of the leftover food if you have that option. Otherwise, ask your caterer to take the leftovers to a local soup kitchen or homeless shelter.

The Getaway. Ask someone if they will stay and get cabs for guests who need them, and make sure your valuablesthe gifts, cake knife, toasting glasses, etc., get home safely.

Your Assistance, Please? Get a few people to take care of the dirty little details the next day. They can take your dress to the cleaners, return your husbands tux to the rental shop and make sure your bouquet gets into some water, (if fresh) if you're planning on saving it.

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